Dear Jaejoong,

You are the only person I know who could manage to garner sympathy for your lonely Christmas Day, give us a beautiful glimpse of your home’s interior, and show us that adorable collection of elephants–all in the same post.  However, with the world and our lives being so busy, you really got a precious gift–time to yourself.

Trouble is–most young people do not see time spent with yourself as a gift because the concentration is on how lonely it is, and you are desiring someone to help you to enjoy that time. That is understandable, but look at it this way. When you are by yourself you get to command the ship. You get to choose your own pursuits, unimpeded by other’s ideas of how to spend the day. You can get up or lie in bed; walk around in a torn T-shirt and a pair of sweats or dress to the nines and hold your own private fashion show. You can choose to read a good book or cook yourself a special meal.

O.K. Why am I waxing eloquent on this?  I guess it is because when you are constantly around other people (and I am) having some time to yourself can prove to be a wonderful change. It doesn’t negate the love in you for other’s, it simply points out that occasionally we must also learn to love and take time for ourselves.

Someday you will have that special someone by your side, and thoughts of being alone on Christmas will be in the past. The family will grow and your committments to others will grow and one day you will find yourself feeling guilty because you desire some alone time. Don’t go there, it is as natural as breathing to desire to have time to be yourself. Yet, I will concede,Jaejoong. It is also natural to desire company on such a momentous day as Christmas. Seek it out, as you did–you knew that we were there, and that you weren’t truly alone. 

Loving you at Christmas,  Momma Cha @jyjfantalk.com