Editor’s Note: 110613 Telisha Shaw/ Telisu’s “Our Secret”
I am posting this song for evaluation in reaction to the controversy that could easily get out-of-hand concerning whether our Junsu and Telisha Shaw have a relationship beyond the stage of the JYJ concerts. As friends and performers, they have every right to a relationship. As anything beyond friends, they would be consenting, yet unwise adults.
Workplace romances are traditionally tragic, and in the case of celebrities, potentially damaging.
Where the problem comes from is the tone and implication of the song “Our Secret”. If Telisha has any respect for JYJ, she should have been wiser in her choice of lyrics as it would be an instant assumption that she is referring to Junsu in the song. This is because it is an understanding among the fandom that they are friends, thus the origin of the name ‘Telisu’. What kind of friends is the issue here, and only they can answer that question.
The song itself is extremely trite; immature; suggestive, and, I’m sorry sweetheart, not the best musically. Including references to the crew room, to LA, and to an Austin Martin infer that the person is a part of the show, and has means. You are doing whomever you fantasize about an injustice here.
In light of the fact that the song is advertised as a fantasy, I am concluding that it is a fantasy on Telisha’s part or at least on the part of the songwriter, albeit a tasteless one, and to give you some credit, Telisha, your inference when speaking of Junsu in your interview is that he is still influenced by his parents. That’s a good thing. Thank you for that inside information.
Telisha, if you want to repay your friendship with JYJ in any way, I feel sad that you have chosen a method that could harm either one or more of them, even if it is with their consent. It is thoughtless, and, frankly speaking, since I believe that we know Junsu better than we know you — he gets the benefit of the doubt hands down. Someday all of JYJCY will commit to a permanent relationship, and I wish them well. Some may already be there, but until they deem it appropriate to announce it to all of the fandom, our role is only that of observer and caring supporter.
For now, Junsu remains my Duckie and that rests my case. Love you, Telisha. Life moves on. Momma Cha
credit; Momma Cha@http://jyjfantalk.com twitter
“Our Secret’
credit: telixiah
Momma’s Source: youtube
Ah, this whole issue has made me fizzled. Sure, I should move on if they are dating, but how some fans joke around with fans that are jealous just makes me more upset. I think that it’s ok for fans to be jealous of her, but I know that it’s not right for them to be threatening her. :/ I know that it may be much worse if it were Changmin (for me at least).
Hi Myndless,
I believe that you are right. It’s never right to threaten anyone, ever. The jealousy issue is bound to be there, especially since fans know that they work together. Celebrities live in the world’s spotlight, and I believe that they have to exercise extreme caution in revealing personal friends and soul ties.
All of this is assumption, so no one knows anything except the fact that they are friends and co-workers. It would have remained there except for the introduction of this song. Youth has passion, so some choices are based on the emotions, not necessarily reason.
If only the fandom could realize that our guys do have a right to have personal lives. Their friendships are of their own choice–it just strikes me that those friends need to be considerate of one another and of the realities of being in the public eye at all times…
I`m going to jump in here and say I think it`s quite natural to be jealous (and it`s no joke either, `cuz it`s tough!)! It just shows that you care – as you are not threatening her but watching over the boys, I mean. When you care about someone you care about their happiness. Yes, some may say it`s silly but when my bias finds his someone I`m probably going to be her worst critic for a little while. Then, hopefully, I will become her fan! 🙂 But threats are out of the question. 🙂
Thanks YF. As with Myndless, I sincerely agree with you. Haters only hurt themselves.
Over time, this issue is going to occur more than once, and sadly has already happened to other K-Pop artists. I know of one whose agency has forbidden her to date or marry until her contract has run out. that may be more prevalent than we know. One of Shinee’s members also had a horrible time when his fans found out about his girlfriend. These reactions can scar people for life.
We do not own people, and to love them also means to love who they love, but it is a journey to get there when your emotions are so attached to someone that you have unintentionally placed them on that proverbial pedestal.
In a way you could say that celebrities know that this is going to happen–but maybe they have buried that thought in a place of denial. Who wants to dwell on that future possibility.
We love, and love means acceptance of what your loved one desires, so we go on hoping for the best and praying that this situation resolves itself soon. We protect, so Guys, please don’t expect us to ignore that this song is out there. We hope for the best possible outcome, and especially for wisdom beyond your years.
There YF, Myndless, you have me writing a book 🙂 Love you both, Cha
That is another thing I’d agree with YunhoFan about. If he does find someone before I can meet him, I’ll be upset the first few days…months (?). But I hope to ease out and support them. Right now it’s like “I’d like for them to date, but at the same time no”, you know?
I also heard about SHINee’s Jonghyun dating. There is a girl in my group on Facebook who is Jonghyun-biased, and she was a bit sad about it. I guess what makes us fans most sad (or me at least) is that they had once said that they’d be more interested in dating a non-celebrity. I know staff and such don’t count, but I thought it meant someone that is completely outside of the entertainment workforce…like some regular, ordinary girl. ^^;;
Ah, sorry for making you write so much, Cha. I also wrote about this issue in my blog. :3
~Myndless~, I live and breathe to write. It’s what I love best. Don’t take me seriously.
O.K. I understand where you are coming from. Unrequited love is the most serious kind. I lived through many years of that in my twenties.
I guess non-celebrity could include staff or back-up dancers. Now that Telisha has crossed over into the celebrity mode? she doesn’t fit the non-celebrity criteria. The main issue is in the guys expectations from us and our expectations from them.
People have real feelings and real hearts. That is why we love our guys. They are talented, appealing, tender-hearted young men with goals and desires that have at this time reached into a new area–commitment to a special individual. They may have all done this at some point in time or none of them may have seriously gone there yet–but it is on the wind. As each one chooses at some point to reveal their choice for a life partner, there will be pain for many, but it can be worked through until our desire is to see them happy with the person of their choice. It’s easy for me to get there in some respects because I have my life partner with me. The boys are adopted into my heart as borrowed sons, so I immediately go into protection mode as opposed to rejection mode. I would do the same for you as I do for my girls.
Nothing much has changed except for this act that somehow stains the pattern of innocency that has always been there despite the fact that it is being proved day by day that our guys are growing into men. Don’t say don’t. Keep your dreams, and pray about your heart desires. The most important thing? Don’t leave them to struggle this out alone. It is more painful for JYJ and HoMin than it is for us. Love you. Cha
(Ivory sighs) Not wise, Telisha honey. Seriously not wise. The main problem with being in the public eye…it is hard to live down your mistakes. Be careful with what you do and say. People are aware of you, Telisha, and your actions effect everyone you are associated with. Be careful and guard your heart…this will also protect those you love most.