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Editors Note: Addendum To The Double-Sided Nature of Fandom…

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Where do I start? We all knew that the Chileans [and soon Peruvians] were going to be passionate. That was a given. We also knew that Jaejoong was going to be the main target. After all, he was voted the sexiest man in the world, right? or something thereabouts… 🙂  Even with that knowledge I don’t believe that JYJ and their staff were prepared for the airport debacle that just occurred. I gathered from reading accounts and watching the videos that there were flashmob dances and a warm reception planned for our Guys. Obviously, something went wrong–and instead of a warm welcome, JYJ received a hot mobbing. I am thankful for those fans, staff, and reporters who leaped to the rescue, and I understand that some were hurt in the process. Beyond Monica was there and tried to help as well. Our Guys were man-handled and that is why I am writing this addendum.
BTW, why didn’t the airport security help? The situation with TVXQ’s Yunho having to quiet and direct the fans was due to insufficient participation by the airport security. But I digress…

All of the controversy about JYJ being abused by fans is reflected in what has just occurred and has been happening on an escalating scale for 8 years. I am very grateful that this has come to everyone’s attention, because it is time for the fandom and the world to realize how devastating and demoralizing this type of behavior can be to JYJ, TVXQ, and other groups. I have read that Shinee’s fans can be quite rambunctious.

How do you point the blame for emotional outbursts only on the artists? Admittedly, they have to exercise self-control as much as possible because the fans are their livelihood and you never want to abuse anyone. They put up with this type of behavior day after day, year after year, and no one expects them to occasionally lose it? That is totally unrealistic. They are chased by sa-saengs(privates)in cabs, by the Paparazzi, and it is reported that approximately 150 sa-saengs are on their trail each day. I personally do not see how they have not gone completely insane. I believe that it is the knowledge that we are there praying for them and supporting them, along with their own families and friends providing support that help them to stay stable.

Now I know why Jaejoong, Junsu, and Yoochun are so close, as are Yunho and Changmin. It is survival. They all share experiences either collectively or individually that would boggle your mind. These experiences encompass not just fans who do not understand limitations, but also (as we are all aware)the companies they work for.

I commend you, JYJ, TVXQ, et al. You have excellent self-management tools that you have had to develop over the years. All I ask is that you continue to communicate when you are so stressed that you are afraid that you will lose it. Don’t disguise it; speak to us frankly. We cannot help you if we do not know the facts. Lots of love. Momma Cha

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Editors Note: The Double-Sided Nature of Fandom

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The Double-sided Nature of Fandom

Okay. I hadn’t written much about the controversies surrounding our Guys and the fans, sasaengs, anti-fans, etc.etc.–but it has now escalated to the point that something must be said, mostly due to the fact that I consider JYJCY to be human beings. Humans beings have flaws, and everyone has their point of no return. Back someone up in a corner and they are going to come out fighting.  It is wrong to call celebrity’s personal phones day and night. When do you expect them to sleep or relax with their family and friends? It is wrong to gather at their place of residence and expect them to be able to relax. How is it justifiable for fans to constantly pursue JYJ and TVXQ or any other celebrity with such intensity as to drive them to encounters such as are implied here? I live a public life, not to the extent of groups like JYJ or TVXQ, but I feel qualified to write my thoughts on this whole issue.

Living a public life means having absolutely no privacy. It means having to constantly mind every word and action to the point of hysteria. It means being totally misunderstood just because it seems the norm for every public person to be targeted for misinterpretation. While fans can open their doors and stride out into the world with their heads high and allow the sun to shine on their faces, celebrities have to sneak out of back entrances, engage body guards, or disguise themselves to go to the downtown convenience store. How do they date without someone seeing them or interrupting them? Do you realize how confining and ultimately damaging to their bodies and personalities this is? Nothing is spontaneous. Every move must be planned and calculated to ensure that the celebrity can get to their destination on time and with safety. As we all know, attempts have been made on our Guy’s lives, Yunho specifically. That they forgive and keep on serving the fandom is greatly beyond what I would consider to be their obligation regardless of the fact that, yes, we spend time and money on them. What would their candid answer be if our Guys were asked whether they would have pursued this industry with the knowledge that they now possess; of how hard it is to live, breathe, and especially–to have relationships. To be honest, Junsu has given us some insight into this in his recent interviews. Read them.

Let me say that there are better things to do with your time than running behind celebrities. I love the fans and I love JYJ and TVXQ with all my heart, but if our Guys were in my hometown I would not feel compelled to be on their doorstep day and night, or to stalk them. I would attend concerts and support them in ways that are reasonable, but to constantly be there to the point of pushing them to react this strongly, and making them compromise their reputations would be totally wrong. How would you like to have no life except serving the fans? If it were me, I would have thrown in the towel a long time ago.

Now, for the real tough stuff. Audio tape evidence is out there, and supposedly videotape evidence that points a finger at JYJ and TVXQ as abusers of fans. GIVE ME PAUSE…..Who is abusing who? Who isn’t being allowed to protect the fans? Who isn’t being allowed a speck of privacy? Who isn’t being allowed to have a proper date?  Everyone deserves to have a home filled eventually  with the laughter of their children.

We have to ask this question: “Who are the ones responsible for creating this evidence?”. It seems awfully convenient that this footage is out there. Is all of it legitimate? Probably not. Do we have video and audio tools in this modern age that can doctor and alter videos and audio materials? Yes, we do. Would someone go so far as to deliberately try to destroy JYJ and HoMins reputations? Of course they would, because it would put a damper into the Hallyu Wave, and eliminate some of the competition. There couldn’t possibly be anyone jealous of their successes, right?

Artists give and give. They are the ultimate servants of the people and sometimes they take this role so seriously that they lose their ability to protect themselves. If any or all of this ‘evidence’ were true, It would not make me change the love in my heart for JYJCY. My love is based on who I believe they truly are–hardworking, sacrificing human beings. They bleed just like everyone else, and they deserve respect and space to live.

Jaejoong, Yunho, Yoochun, Junsu, and Changmin. You have given so much to us. We thank you with sincerity and ask you to forgive our trespasses into your life as much as we forgive your own mistakes. If anything has come out of this horrendous nonsense, it has been my realization that to know that these men are indeed this vulnerable and this human is incentive to make me and my family love them even more. Fighting!!!!  

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Editors Note: A Belated Look At Valentines Day

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 Editors Note: A Belated Look At Valentines Day

      Holidays are wonderful. They take the drab out of our existence and give us opportunity to relate to loved ones and friends. For some, however, holidays can be a hurting time. Singles, especially, may find Valentines Day to be a hard holiday to embrace.

     I can remember being single. It was a lonely existence with time spent working; visiting family and friends; fishing and bowling–just in an attempt to fill my hours and keep my thoughts off of going home to my empty house. I can remember driving down to the ocean and staring out at the water while bemoaning my single state. I am an extreme extravert–and being alone for me was not a good thing then or now.

     I listen to my daughters, both single, and realize that they also struggle with this love holiday. While they are searching and praying for their special person, it is emotionally trying to view everyone else around them in relationships. They struggle with the decision to attend a valentine’s party, or not? What they do not realize is that the state of being single also has it’s own merit.

     When you are single you can choose to make your own agenda. You can motor to a quiet spot on a whim; go shopping without extreme guilt, or sleep in (a rare privilege for us married folk). There are none to argue with your politics unless you choose to allow them. You can invest and save for a rainy day and…you can buy a luxury car or a sports car because you are usually the only occupant. In other words you have more freedom. On the down side–you may experience less social interaction.

     There are some single people who love being single. They surround themselves with family and/or friends and choose to live a single lifestyle. They are happy in the knowledge that this is their choice, and many are true nurturers. They become the aunties and uncles that shower love on everyone.

    I guess this all boils down to realizing that the old axiom, “grass is always greener on the other side” may not always be true. Not all singles want married bliss, although  I can safely say that most do, and not all marrieds want to stay married. Marriage is hard work and extreme commitment,and is definitely not for the faint of heart!!

     That said, Valentines Day can be painful for singles and marrieds alike. So the next time you bemoan your fate as a single on Valentines Day, please remember that there are widow(ers), divorced persons, and people in abuse situations out there. Valentines Day is a struggle for them also.

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This entry was posted on Monday, February 20th, 2012 at 10:12 am and is filed under My Look at the World.

Editor’s Note: And So It Starts…

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O.K. Folks. We have a serious situation here. Park Yoochun is being speculated about concerning ‘nude’ photographs complete with a female who is now crying foul and wants retribution. Doesn’t this sound extremely familiar? From Elvis Presley to Michael Jackson to… I could go on, but what we have here is the age-old method of getting rich quick. Politicians ride this particular horse quite often, founded or unfounded, especially during election years. Some of them are guilty; some are not, but blackmail is a product of the entertainment/public figure system. To be succint–it is a product of acquiring fame and wealth.

Yoochun is not the only one having a finger pointed at him (the evidence is that shabby) but this I do know. The answer to this lies with the participants. Obviously someone isn’t coming clean so everyone has to be raked through the trash.

If only people would learn to give time a chance to straighten these things out as opposed to instantly flying off the handle and making the situation more difficult than it needs to be.

Concentrate on your drama filming, Yoochun, and leave this type of speculation where it belongs. On the trashpile. <3  

Momma Cha @jyjfantalk

Editors Note: What Is a Chameleon?

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Human skin sheds, but does not change color.  Chameleons adapt to any color background because the colorant is from a protective force within. .

Chameleons are remarkable reptiles. Their method of protecting themselves and guarding their territory is to change to suit the environment in which they presently live. This means that they are red against red; blue against blue, green and yellow against green and yellow. This works fine for the chameleon who was designed by God to be this way. However, when it comes to people, changing their outer colors to gain advantage in each market points to inconstancy, insecurity, and unreliability. What determines strength is the ability to make a wise stand and stick to it despite severe opposition and persecution. The insecure tend to run in numbers, gaining their strength from bullying and conniving while the secure gain their strength from inner resources that inspire others to be supportive.

Are you getting my message? The chameleon changes on the outside but the inside does not change. Humans tend to change from the inside and show their outer colors, which, theoretically, do not change. A brave man is a brave man, and a coward is a coward. There is always hope that a person can change their colors–but the desire must come from the inside to be displayed to others around them. Inspiration makes a difference in the way that we act, perceive, and receive.

Remember. No one is disposable; there is always margin for change, and the change that is permanent is motivated from the inside and shows results to the present society and beyond. Pray for change; make a stand; fight wise battles; and expect results.

Momma Cha @jyjfantalk